ToaSG: No. 2

I had drinks with a girlfriend tonight at Fennel Lounge (very nice place btw, with great cocktails and very charming bartenders) and she bemoaned how technology made courtship too sloppy and casual. Whatever happened to picking up a phone and making plans together? Versus "hey, what's up?"..... [cue another 34 minutes before the next reply. LAME!]

I really couldn't agree with her more.

People these days prefer texting because of editing protection. For example, a person with Turrets will certainly sound normal over text. Obviously that person will be much less persuasive over the phone (ha!). But if you're going to always hide behind texts then to us it just signals that you don't have the ability to be direct. If you're going to text, best leave it to information only -- like a time, date, address, and other logistical details.

There's something to be said about a guy who can pick up the phone and call. It's exciting! I mean, who gets nervous texting?! Just compare that with dialing a number waiting for the many rings before hearing a "hello?"... of course you'll then completely fumble words and sound a little squeaky. Sometimes your voice will even crack! But that's charming, and honest, and goofy... but most importantly it's YOU.

Don't be wishy washy, it's unattractive. And it's harder for a girl to reject a guy's advance when she's ambushed with a call vs. texting. Think about it, fellas. If you get a date out of this, treat me to an elderflower drink at Fennel. :)